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Chair Relay Race // Game

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How to play the “Chair Relay Race” Game

Make two teams. In our case we had 2 teams of 10 each and we did boys versus girls. Line up the same amount of chairs for how many people are on each team (the two teams should be equal). Place the two lines of chairs an appropriate distance apart from each other and have the chairs facing toward each other. Place an object (we just used another chair, but it could be anything… even a person) in the middle that the students have run around. You’ll also need a ball or some kind of object for each team to pass.

The object of the game is to get through all of your teammates before the other team does.

Each team starts by passing the object down the line, then the person on the end gets up and runs around the chair while their team shifts down their line one chair. The person who ran around the chair in the middle then sits at the other end then passes the object back down the line again. This cycle continues until all the participants have ran around the chair. The team that completes the relay first, wins.

When we played this game, we noticed that we needed to prompt the students to shift down the line each time and direct the runner to the other side rather than the spot they started from. You can see in the video below these various things happening.

This is a high energy game and the students had a lot of fun playing it. The other neat thing is that many students could participate in this game, even the shy ones who wouldn’t normally volunteer for a game.

Check out the game in action:

source YouTube

Sack Races // Game

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How to play the “Sack Races” Game

We found some burlap sacks for $3-4 each at our local hardware store, so you’ll need to pick up a few of these. And you’ll need some space, or a “lane” of sorts. At our Youth group we used people for the students to tag. At Followers (elementary students) we just used masking tape on the floor to mark off the beginning and finish line. Take your pick.

We had 2-3 participants race in the sacks.

Things we noticed (which you will too in the video) is that it is tempting for students to interfere in creative ways with games where the participants are in close proximity to other students. So keep in mind you’ll have to control the spectators or do it in a location where the crowd cannot interfere. Both students and leaders participated in this game. Lots of fun!!

Check out this game in action:

source YouTube

Lawn Twister // Game

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How to Play the “Lawn Twister” Game

You’ll need:

  • 4 different colors of spray paint
  • Poster board
  • Medium size bowl
  • Scissors
  • Pencil
  • Bucket and paper

Setup the Lawn Twister:

  • The blog article has pictures of how to set this up
  • Trace a circle off of a medium sized bowl (to the desired size of the twister circle) on a piece of poster board (try to get at least 2 circles on the poster board) and cut out the circles. This is your template.
  • Take the template and spray paint a circle in a grid format. Make sure you have adequate spacing of the circles (not too close, but not too far away… think how far a student could reach with their hands and feet).
  • Make 4 rows with your 4 different spray paint colors. You can make the “board” as long as you want, but stick with 4 colors.

Playing the game:

  • You could grab a spinner from a Twister game, or
  • You could make pieces of paper that represented the 4 colors (cardstock or colored paper) and on each color you would need: right hand, left hand, right foot, left foot. Instead of spinning, you could pull paper out of a bowl.

Have fun!

HT Growing Kids Ministry

High School Developmental Changes

Here are some developmental changes we could be be aware of as parents and mentors of high school students:

(This is going to seem like a lot of information… and it is… just go to the grade that you work with as a parent or mentor and focus on that section first for a bit… then look behind your grade and to the next grade for content after you’ve solidified your grade for a while.)

Grade 9

Physically

  • Has difficultly falling asleep before 11pm (it’s biological)
  • Needs nine hours of sleep and one hour of exercise per day
  • Girls still outpace guys in development
  • Guys are getting taller, smellier, hairier, and gaining muscle mass; may also experience an increase in acne, voice changes, and weird dreams
  • Girls’ bodies take on adult physical appearance; after menstruation, increase in height will slow then stop

Mentally

  • Increasingly able to focus, recall, and organize information
  • Overly self-aware; may think, “everybody’s watching me”
  • Wired for risk-taking and sensational experiences
  • Resists potentially embarrassing situations
  • “I am bored” often means “I don’t understand”

Relationally

  • Girls begin wearing make-up on a regular basis
  • Dating relationships tend to be short-lived
  • Increased interest in sexual expression (30% of ninth graders report being sexually active)
  • Say they want parents to listen more than advise

Emotionally

  • Feels empowered through choices rather than rules
  • May still feel insecure about changing body
  • Needs help navigating extreme emotions
  • May experience changes in motivation
  • Seeks experiences that create intense feelings and emotions
  • Increasingly vulnerable to addiction: self-harm, alcohol, pornography, etc.

Grade 10

Physically

  • Has difficulty falling asleep before 11pm (it’s biological)
  • Needs nine hours of sleep and one hour of exercise per day
  • Girls have likely reached adult height and body development
  • Guys may experience an increase in acne, voice changes, and weird dreams

Mentally

  • Increasingly able to focus, recall, and organize information
  • Keenly aware of global issues and may be critical of the adult world
  • Overly self-aware; may think, “everybody’s watching me”
  • Wired for risk-taking and sensational experiences
  • Tends to be curious, inquisitive, and drawn toward the supernatural

Relationally

  • Dating relationships may become more “committed”
  • Increased interest in sexual expression (41% of tenth graders report being sexually active)
  • Increased susceptibility to date violence and rape (16 years)
  • May experience depression; highest year for teen suicide
  • Desires respect and responsibilities that increase freedom; may enjoy sharing ideas with adults who will listen

Emotionally

  • Feels empowered through choices rather than rules
  • Responds well to specific praise
  • Becoming aware of their personal tendencies and patterns
  • Needs help navigating extreme emotions
  • Seeks experiences that create intense feelings and emotions
  • Vulnerable to addiction: self-harm, alcohol, pornography, etc.

Grade 11

Physically

  • Has difficultly falling asleep before 11pm (it’s biological)
  • Needs nine hours of sleep and one hour of exercise per day
  • Girls have likely reached adult height and body development
  • Guys may continue to grow in height and develop muscle mass, body, and facial hair

Mentally

  • Can be insightful and incisive about complex issues
  • Wired for risk-taking and sensational experiences
  • Tends to be opportunistic and idealistic
  • Struggles with long-term thinking
  • Expanding mental capabilities to grasp paradox, hyperbole, innuendo, and satire

Relationally

  • Dating relationships may become more “committed”
  • Increased interest in sexual expression (54% of eleventh graders report being sexually active)
  • Cares deeply about issues like control, responsibility, and freedom (both personally and globally)
  • Tends to be self-focused, busy, and unavailable

Emotionally

  • Values humor as a positive point of connection
  • Becoming more at ease with who they are; may become more honest than in previous phases
  • Often takes on more than they can handle
  • May struggle with regulating emotions and social control

Grade 12

Physically

  • Wisdom teeth may begin to “come in” (17-21 years)
  • Has difficulty falling asleep before 11pm (it’s biological)
  • Needs nine hours of sleep and one hour of exercise per day
  • Girls have likely reached adult height and body development
  • Guys may continue to grow in height and develop muscle mass, body, and facial hair

Mentally

  • May overly romanticize or catastrophize
  • Open to discussing current affairs and social issues
  • Capable of complex, multi-step problem solving
  • Still struggles with long-term planning

Relationally

  • Increased interest in sexual expression (64% of twelfth graders report being sexually active)
  • Less available for family time
  • Wants to feel ownership in personal decisions
  • Shows respect for others’ opinions and able to compromise
  • More at ease around adults

Emotionally

  • Becoming more emotionally stable, but still needs support and grace
  • Often thrives in a particular area of interest
  • Values being true to themselves
  • Frequently demonstrates initiative for personal interests

The chart above details the mental and physical timeline from birth through graduation. You can click on it to make it bigger (or click here).

Developmental information is helpful for general understanding. Obviously these lists are broad markers for students in this developmental area. These lists transport adults back in time so we can remember what was happening to us during tha time. Often we are not aware of what is happening to us in the moment we are in it, so we need adults with perspective to give students hope that they can make it through the tumultuousness of adolescence. Knowing this information is helpful for us to offer wise advice and healthy perspective to students.

source: Phase Summaries justaphase.com/resources/for-leaders

Middle School Developmental Changes

Here are some developmental changes that would be nice to be aware of as parents and mentors of middle school students:

Grade 6

Physically

  • Needs lots of food and 9-11 hours of sleep each night
  • Continues losing molars (9-12 years)
  • Girls outpacing guys in development
  • Guys experience changes in height and weight, an increase in hormones, and possible acne
  • Girls experience changes in height and body shape; may begin menstruation (10-16 years)

Mentally

  • Enjoys learning new skills and being challenged
  • Increasingly able to grasp abstract concepts like “justice”
  • Growing ability to see the world from different perspectives
  • Differentiates actions from motives and tries to discern motives (although they frequently misinterpret those motives)
  • Sudden brain growth may lead to forgetfulness

Relationally

  • Debates often, but argues more from emotion than logic
  • Seeks peer approval and conformity
  • Often displays worst behavior at home
  • Benefits from having a same-gender best friend
  • Values non-parental adult influences
  • May have romantic interests and experiment with physical affection

Emotionally

  • Often masks emotions in order to fit in
  • Benefits from talking about feelings
  • Struggles with decision-making
  • Lies more than at any other phase
  • May become preoccupied with perceived abilities and undervalue persistence, effort, and practice

Grade 7-8

Physically

  • Still needs 9-11 hours of sleep each night and may easily fatigue or develops headaches
  • Girls outpace guys in development
  • Guys experience changes in height and body shape and may develop body odor, body hair, and increase muscle mass
  • Girls experience significant growth spurt, development of body odor, body hair, breasts, and menstruation is likely (11-16 years)

Mentally

  • Capable of self-evaluation and self-critique
  • Able to see two sides of an argument
  • Connects information to form an opinion
  • Solves multi-step, complex problems
  • Growing ability to organize

Relationally

  • Often interested in pop culture, slang, current events, politics, or a global cause
  • Wants to negotiate rules and test boundaries
  • Displays an increasingly adult-like personality
  • Needs non-parental adult influences
  • Benefits from having a same-gender best friend

Emotionally

  • Enjoys sarcasm and sophisticated jokes
  • Often interested in leadership roles and teaching younger children
  • May emphasize physical appearance and performance
  • Tends to overschedule their time
  • Benefits from talking about feelings

The chart above details the mental and physical timeline from birth through graduation. You can click on it to make it bigger (or click here).

Developmental information is helpful for general understanding. Obviously these lists are broad markers for students in this developmental area. These lists transport adults back in time so we can remember what was happening to us during tha time. Often we are not aware of what is happening to us in the moment we are in it, so we need adults with perspective to give students hope that they can make it through the tumultuousness of adolescence. Knowing this information is helpful for us to offer wise advice and healthy perspective to students.

source: Phase Summaries justaphase.com/resources/for-leaders

Understanding the Relational Questions of a Middle School Student

There are fundamental relational questions kids need to answer as they grow and develop:

  • In preschool the relational questions surround “Am I?” (impressions about themselves and the world): Am I safe? Am I able? Am I okay?
  • In elementary the relational questions surround “Do I have?” (related to skills and competencies that equip their future): Do I have your attention? Do I have what it takes? Do I have friends?
  • In middle school the relational questions surround “Who?” (challenging authority and personalizing belief): Who do I like? Who likes me? Who am I?
  • In high school the relational questions surround “Where?” “Why?” “How?” and “What?” (refining their unique abilities and developing a sense of purpose): Where do I belong? Why should I believe? Why can’t I? How can I matter? What will I do?

Middle School Specific

In middle school, a preteen challenges authority and personalizes what they believe. The way a middle schooler resolves the “who” questions of life determines the framework for their relational stability. It affects the way they see themselves, the way they see the world, and the way they see themselves in the world. In these phases, the relational questions shift from black-and-white to grey. The answers are no longer the same for every kid, so they need to be personalized.

The best way to resolve a middle schooler’s relational questions is to AFFIRM their personal journey.

Practically speaking, here’s how to do that:

Who do I like? Who likes me? Sixth graders need an overdose of acceptance to combat the storm of changes. When adults recruit other affirming leaders and peers, kids gain stability.

In grade 6, it will help small group leaders to remember that these self-conscious preteens are wondering if they are like-able (worthy of someone liking them and who they are) and they are making determinations on who they will choose to like. This stage leads into 7th and 8th grade where identity formation starts to solidify. In 6th grade, students are “testing” out various ways of being. Coupled with HUGE hormonal changes (puberty), who do I like and who likes me takes on enormous significance. Having a stable adult who likes them for who they are (as crazy as their home or school life is) is a great gift. As a small group leader, you have the opportunity to be a consistent, stabilizing presence for these emerging teenagers in the chaos of their current world.

Who am I? Seventh and eighth graders are increasingly self-aware and self-conscious. When adults acknowledge positive qualities and strengths, kids discover uniqueness.

I have noticed that these students tend to solidify the identity they want to project onto the world during 7th and 8th grade. Now it is not set in stone or cured in concrete, nor is anything more powerful than the work of the Holy Spirit, but this is a crucial age for a young teenager. This question of “Who am I?” is so important and small group leaders have the opportunity to answer those questions consistently by acknowledging the qualities you see in them. These students don’t have the mental capability to think outside of themselves, so what an caring adult that they look up to says is VERY powerful and impactful. We know this: words matter, and we never know when the words we say are going to be the ones that stick and they remember. 7th and 8th grade students are super-fun, and they love hearing what makes them unique because this is the core relational question they are seeking to answer.

The chart above details the relational timeline from birth through graduation. You can click on it to make it bigger (or click here).

It’s fascinating to see how the questions change as a person gets older, isn’t it?! In fact, if we’re honest, most of us adults are still working through some of these same questions ourselves because we weren’t afforded the opportunity to answer them adequately when we were younger. But there is hope! It is never too late to engage with these questions!

Source: It’s Just a Phase So Don’t Miss It: Why Every Life Stage of a Kid Matters by Reggie Joiner & Kristin Ivy, pp. 106-107

Understanding the Relational Questions of a High School Student

There are fundamental relational questions kids need to answer as they grow and develop:

  • In preschool the relational questions surround “Am I?” (impressions about themselves and the world): Am I safe? Am I able? Am I okay?
  • In elementary the relational questions surround “Do I have?” (related to skills and competencies that equip their future): Do I have your attention? Do I have what it takes? Do I have friends?
  • In middle school the relational questions surround “Who?” (challenging authority and personalizing belief): Who do I like? Who likes me? Who am I?
  • In high school the relational questions surround “Where?” “Why?” “How?” and “What?” (refining their unique abilities and developing a sense of purpose): Where do I belong? Why should I believe? Why can’t I? How can I matter? What will I do?

High School Specific

In high school, a teenager refines their unique abilities and develops a sense of purpose. The way a high schooler resolves the “Where,” “Why,” “How,” and “What” questions of life provides a compass for navigating their future direction. It affects the way they pursue community, live out a personal ethic, and contribute to a greater mission.

The best way to resolve a high schooler’s relational questions is to MOBILIZE their potential.

Practically speaking, here’s how to do that:

Where do I belong? Freshman are looking for a new tribe. When adults connect teens with similar interests, teens value community.

I wonder if 9th graders seek belonging because they are both stepping into high school as the youngest grade in the building and maybe looking to reinvent themselves if the identity formation of 7th and 8th grade didn’t quite go as planned as well as when deep friendship formation is occuring? In elementary it seems students have lots of friends…as long as one wants to play, anyone is your friend. In middle school the friend pool tends to narrow based on common interests and experiences. Once a student enters high school, their friendship sphere has narrowed to a handful that they can really get to know and invest in. That’s why who a high school students’ friends are should deeply matter to parents and small goup leaders because who one hangs out with and what kind of person they are will most definitely rub off on one another! Because belonging is so important to a 9th grade student, the kind of community we foster is important!

Why should I believe? Why can’t I? Sophomores want to challenge the limits. When adults listen carefully and respond with questions, teens clarify values.

This is when parents tend to freak out and seek out a pastor: “HELP! My daughter says she doesn’t believe in God anymore! What do I do?!” Well for one, don’t freak out. That’s the last thing they need. When questions and statements that challenge limits come up, the 10th grade student is wondering: “Can the adults in my life handle the hard questions I have? Or am I crazy?” Contrary to popular parental opinion, these students are just trying to get a reaction, they genuinely want to know the answers to their questions. We (parents and small group leaders) have the opportunity to respond with love, grace, and patience. The best posture I have discovered is not just telling them the answers, but coming alongside of them and searching for answers together. The best approach is not to directly answer, but investigate together (almost like you are playing dumb, even if you know or don’t know the answers!). This investigation teaches them that questions that test limits are okay, how we respond to them is important as well.

How can I matter? Juniors are ready to make a difference–now. When adults provide consistent opportunities to lead and serve, teens refine skills.

11th graders want to change the world. They are idealistic and enthusiastic…anything is possible. The last thing they need is an adult to be realistic with them! They will think you are old, outdated, and out-of-touch…and they might be right!! I wonder if our youth group’s recent trips overseas has helped with this. It seems like when these students are given opportunities to lead and serve they engage wholeheartedly. I also wonder if Charlene’s encouragement to do some service projects in the area (LCO and Duluth) is especially important in this grade.

What will I do? Seniors want to know where they are headed. When adults encourage experiences and simplify options, teens create vision.

High school seniors have no stress… they just have to figure out a life trajectory by the time they graduate or by the fall. No pressure! Significant adults in their life can offer a listening ear and be a source of ideas, encouragement and guidance. We all have wisdom to share all based on our own personal stories. What I have found over the years as I talk with graduating seniors is they crave experiences. They are ready for a new adventure on their own. They want the best experiences that are going to shape their life. I love hearing them and encouraging them. I wonder how often they get encouragement or not. Whatever the case, we have the opportunity to guide them by listening and encouraging…being a positive, excited person in their life. They all need that!

The chart above details the relational timeline from birth through graduation. You can click on it to make it bigger (or click here).

It’s fascinating to see how the questions change as a person gets older, isn’t it?! In fact, if we’re honest, most of us adults are still working through some of these same questions ourselves because we weren’t afforded the opportunity to answer them adequately when we were younger. But there is hope! It is never too late to engage with these questions!

Source: It’s Just a Phase So Don’t Miss It: Why Every Life Stage of a Kid Matters by Reggie Joiner & Kristin Ivy, pp. 106-107

Cultural and Religious Exegesis of Post-Christian High School Students

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Back in October of 2015 I completed my master’s thesis @ Wesley Seminary. It’s one of those things that resides on my computer and sits in the stacks at Indiana Wesleyan University Library, but isn’t easily exposed to the light of day. So I thought I would post some of my thesis’ content. The full thesis (Wesley Seminary calls it a “Capstone Project”) is available on this site: jeremymavis.com/capstone-project

My thesis has three components:

  1. A cultural and religious exegesis of post-Christian high school students in Hayward, WI
  2. The definition and implications of the Gospel of Jesus Christ
  3. A sort of homogenized praxis of engagement with the Gospel to the current post-Christian high school students in Hayward, WI culture. It seeks to discern best practices to the transmission and outworking of the Gospel among the existing culture of Hayward’s high school students.

This post concentrates on the first component:

Cultural and Religious Exegesis of Post-Christian High School Students

It is difficult to discern how our culture affects the pool we swim in. The cultural pool of post-Christian high school students in Hayward, WI is both unique and ubiquitous. It is unique because Hayward is a small, tourism-driven community with relatively wide ranging income disparity. Hayward’s high school culture is ubiquitous because it is not sheltered from the tidal wave of generational and cultural change that is present in the larger youth culture in the West. While the distinctives of Hayward’s unique small town culture are valuable to discern, the wider cultural exegesis of the emerging generational and cultural change among high school students in particular is the focus of this study.

Ortberg (1997) took some time to review a couple of books related to the demise of Christianity and the church in the West in Christianity Today. Ortberg (1997) relays a story about a United Methodist Bishop who was stopped by “a group of 20-or-so year-olds” (p. 40) who asked what the building the Bishop was entering was for. Not only did these young adults not know what a church building was, but they even asked what a church was and, when instructed it had to do with people who followed the teachings of Jesus, they asked an even more profound question: “Who is Jesus?” (Ortberg, 1997, p. 40).

The jaw-dropping conversation cannot be overstated enough: Ortberg’s recounting of the Bishop’s interaction happened circa 1997. This was eighteen years ago. Those young adults are nearing their forties now. Which begs the question:

How did we seemingly arrive at a point in time where one does not recognize a church nor its function within a society as well as who its founder, Jesus, is?

In Christendom and Post-Christendom, Stuart Murray (2010) takes the reader on a journey through the emergence of Christendom and its supposed demise. Murray breaks up the era of the church (arguably when the Holy Spirit arrived at Pentecost through the present) into three epochs: pre-Christendom, Christendom, and post-Christendom. Pre-Christendom was the time of the church when it was dismissed and an often misunderstood sect of Judaism, but had at its heart a crucified, resurrected, and reigning Lord: Jesus Christ. Murray (2010) describes the pre-Christendom church as “one of the few remaining stabilising and civilising influences” (p. 1) in the Roman Empire. The epoch of Christendom came when Christianity was recognized and legalized by the Emperor Constantine and the church began to enjoy a privileged association with the state “that would dominate Europe for over a thousand years and that still impacts the way Christians think and act” (Murray, 2010, p. 2). Christendom is coming to a slow end—the one where folks would recognize the significance of a church building and the central figure at the center of it: Jesus.  Christendom as a functional part of the relationship between church and state has arguably all but ceased to exist, however the “Christendom mindset,” as Murray (2010, p. 5) calls it, is more deeply embedded into western culture and therefore will hang on much longer than its institutions. Murray (2010) highlights both difficulties as well as great opportunities for the church in the post-Christendom epoch. A well-informed understanding of Christendom and its effects as well as the emerging post-Christendom mindset is necessary for accurate cultural engagement.

Henry Blamires (1999), in The Post-Christian Mind, raises more of an alarm to the marginalization of Christianity in this new reality. Blamires (1999) uses alarmist phrases like “hostility,” “assault,” “campaign,” “brainwashed,” “half-truths,” and “sly insinuations” (p. 9) when he refers to the current cultural climate. Additionally, Blamires (1999) writes about how our secular culture is letting go of the “restraints of Christian culture” (p. 11) therefore displaying “popular contemporary attitudes [and] positions [that are] antagonistic to the Christian faith” (p. 10). At the very least, it seems as though Blamires was asking the right questions related to the direction a culture was headed that seemed to oppose Christianity and discriminate against any cultural moorings it might have. Blamires (1999) argued for a combative approach to the encroaching secularism of the culture. Instead of a quiet and faithful subversion or a subtle corrective cultural engagement, the author encourages Christians to engage in protest and the strategic unveiling of cultures’ systemic marginalization and denouncement of Christianity. In other words, the only way Christianity can combat the emerging post-Christian mind is to actively engage or to become louder than the culture itself. No matter what one thinks about Blamires’ assessment of Christianity or his prescription, at the very least he draws awareness that to not engage in this dramatically changing landscape will be to merely acquiesce and sit idly and ineptly by the wayside.

In the spirit of Blamires, Mohler (2004) calls Christian to at least count the cost of engaging the current post-Christian culture.  Mohler (2004) echoes similar themes regarding the emerging post-Christian world that Blamires (1999) and Murray (2010) have already introduced: “the church is being displaced” and marginalized. Mohler (2004) cautions Christians that to “contend for Christian truth in the face of this culture is to discover what it means to be a member of a cognitive minority.” This caution is not meant to dissuade Christians into disengagement, but rather to count the cost of swimming counter to the culture’s current through actually speaking and living contrary to culture’s expectations.

On the positive, yet realistic side of things, there is Pastor James Zerfing (2009) who went on a quest to wrestle with some deep questions he had about the essence of the church, the Gospel that was preached, the mission of God’s new covenanted people in Jesus Christ by the power of the Spirit, and does church and the Gospel matter to this current generation. In an article entitled, Going to Get Wonder-fully Messed Up: Core Values in a Post-Christian World, Zerfing (2009) shares that Christendom ended up embodying a church that supported culture instead of critiqued it (p. 50). Culture’s shift to a post-Christendom world needs a church who will return to its essence as a prophetic voice amidst a rampantly pluralistic enterprise. No longer can the church assume people know about the Gospel of Jesus Christ, the nature and purpose of His church, and what the people of God in Christ are supposed to do in world that is largely antagonistic to Christianity. Zerfing (2009) argues for a more robust Christology, missiology, and ecclesiology (p. 48).

Returning to Ortberg’s (1997) story of a United Methodist Bishop and the young adult audience he encountered outside of his church who did not know what the building was, what a church did, and who they would worship, it seems there is a unique mix of:

  1. those who are just plain ignorant to the Christian story,
  2. others who are refugees from Christianity who walked away because it did not hold any power,
  3. and those who are largely antagonistic to the Christian faith.

It seems Ortberg’s (1997) account connects with those who are ignorant to the Christian metanarrative, Blamires (1999) seems to tackle those who are antagonistic to Christianity, and Zerfing (2009) can sympathize with those who have found the Christian faith lacking in its power to change a life.

In an interview with Pastor Tim Keller and author Gabe Lyons on America’s God Baggage? Approaching a Post-Christian World, Eryn Sun (2011) shares Keller’s sentiment regarding our current culture: “A relativistic culture on the one hand gives you freedom since there are no moral absolutes—that’s the upside. The downside is ‘what am I here for? If I’m an accident, then I’m not here for a purpose…and I don’t have anything to live for.’” In other words, there are those who live life without the need for depth of meaning (these folks are often ignorant to matters of faith and meaning) and then there are those who have not got a clear answer from the church that offers a cogent and comprehensive sense of meaning in life (these folks have left the church because it has been found wanting). Furthermore, there are those who clearly find meaning in a belief system of their own choosing (as each individual can), but are often unaware of the religious ground they ironically stand on.

In a fascinating article called Toward Spirituality of Post-Christian Disciples of Jesus, author Jeff B. Pool (2011) makes a case that people no longer want to be labeled “Christian” but rather “a disciple of Jesus” (p. 10). Pool (2011) references the label post-Christian disciples of Jesus not because of the extremes on either end of science and religion, but rather the deep sense of betrayal that both humanistic and theistic worldviews have failed to produce. Thus the shedding of the “Christian” label, but there is a reticence to lose the efficaciousness of the founder of Christianity: Jesus Christ. Folks are left to wander in the ecclesial and non-ecclesial landscape because the church’s traditions, dogmas, and creeds speak of rules, regulations, and boundaries, rather than the pursuit of the teachings and practices of a first century figure who did not succumb to the religious order of the day by speaking against it, but at the same time died in order to save it. In Pool’s (2011) words, “the religious commitments of post-Christian disciples of Jesus do not necessarily affirm any specific Christian orthodoxy that may remain in the contemporary situation of religious pluralism [nor] do they necessarily offer any allegiance to a Christian ecclesiastical organization or denomination nor does the political or cultural situation any longer necessarily retain the power to compel such allegiance from them” (p. 23). In other words, post-Christian disciples of Jesus are not encumbered by religious institutions nor loyal by default, but rather open to dialoguing and engaging in various forms of Christian tradition and practice to inform not a specific Christian tribe’s understanding of Jesus Christ, but a holistic, more biblically and historically-centered understanding.

Narrowing the discussion to the cultural issues surrounding the emerging generation, Dr. Tim Elmore (2010), in Generation iY: Our Last Chance to Save Their Future, speaks succinctly to the generational milieu our young people are currently growing up in. Elmore says that “more than any previous group, this younger population has been defined by technology… this population, born in the 1990s and afterward, has literally grown up online” (2010, p. 13). Not only is this emerging generation the most connected, but it is also the most “overwhelmed” (Elmore, 2010, p. 19) and stressed, “overprotected” (p. 22) and unable to function very well on their own, and “overserved” (p. 25) and entitled. It seems that generation iY or millennials, are extending their adolescence because most things in their lives are taken care of for them by their parents or society as a whole. This delayed entrance to adulthood produces a sociological phenomenon among high school students that makes them potentially lazy, waste time, and change preferences (i.e. jobs) quite regularly. According to Elmore (2010), there is not much immediacy or societal motivation for an older adolescent to venture out on their own in their early twenties. This newly-minted cultural reality presents unique challenges for an ecclesial environment to share the good news of Jesus Christ. A high school student might think: “What is the motivation for such a discussion and why is it important now? I’ve got enough time to think through these things in the future. I would rather text, surf social media or play video games.”

Youth Pastor Brock Morgan (2013) chronicles his journey of being confronted with post-Christian high school students when he moved from the West Coast to New England in Youth Ministry in a Post-Christian World: A Hopeful Wake-Up Call. Through a seminar at a youth worker convention, Morgan heard about this unique new world that high school students are encountering and being baptized in called post-Christianity. It was not until he moved to Greenwich, Connecticut, did Morgan realize how post-Christian the church, its students, and the surrounding culture were. “The biblical narrative no longer has any coherence,” Morgan (2013, p. 26), in our society or among its youth. “Students are growing up with different worldviews and different religions all around them [and] the world is flat, which means my students and your students are not so far apart” (Morgan, 2013, pp. 26-27). In other words, the worldviews offered to Pastor Morgan’s students in Greenwich, CT are available to students in Hayward, Wisconsin because the Internet and its proliferation of ideas are not bound by state borders nor regional restraints. In prior generations, differing viewpoints on a subject or alternative worldviews were primarily available for collegiate students and beyond, but are now accessible to high school students and younger. Morgan shares that “every public school student takes a class called ‘The Myth of Creation’ [that] is not a science class about evolution; it’s a class that basically breeds agnostic thinking” (2013, p. 26). Wrestling with deep questions of life, meaning, and religion has long been a hallmark of the academy, but not typically engaged at the level of secondary education. Furthermore, one could concede that post-Christianity’s amalgamation of multiple worldviews is simply paganism revisited. Each person can make up their own god (language in past generations) or create their own truth (current language). Current post-Christian culture repeats earlier versions of paganism in a more socially acceptable package.

Finally, Kenda Creasy Dean (2010) in Almost Christian: What the Faith of Our Teenagers is Telling the American Church, clearly lays out her thesis: “American young people are, theoretically, fine with religious faith—but it does not concern them very much, and it is not durable enough to survive long after they graduate from high school” (p. 3). In essence, students do not just graduate from high school, but they also graduate from Christianity. The Christian story and its corresponding ethics are appreciated and embraced in elementary school and often into middle school and sometimes into high school. However, in this current post-Christian society, it seems any vestige of the true nature of the Christian narrative that might be present in a high school student is long gone after graduation. It is imagined that a student appreciates Christianity as an extracurricular activity that was good for when they were young, but now that they are old, they have moved past such childish ideas and grown up. It is difficult to imagine a true and integrated faith failing to remain sticky in a student’s heart just because they are moving on into the adult world. That is, unless, the faith communicated is not really an accurate understanding of the faith of Jesus Christ and is an imposter. Dean (2010) calls out the imposter: “Moralistic Therapeutic Deism has little to do with God or a sense of a divine mission in the world. It offers comfort, bolsters self-esteem, helps solve problems, and lubricates interpersonal relationships by encouraging people to do good, feel good, and keep God at arm’s length. It is a self-emolliating spirituality; its thrust is persona happiness and helping people treat each other nicely” (p. 29).

It seems a well-intended yet bastardized version of the Gospel of Jesus Christ has invaded the Christian faith and has succeeded in turning the hearts of many adults and, by extension, their children away from the true Gospel, which leads the conversation in somewhat of a new direction: What is the true Gospel of Jesus Christ and secondly, how does one engage post-Christian high school students who have been immersed in the gamut of worldviews and ideas?

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Sabbatical Leave

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Hayward Wesleyan Church has graciously given me a gift of sabbatical starting November 1 through the end of December. I will pause pastoral duties for two months and resume them on January 2, 2018.

Every seven years, HWC offers their pastors this wonderful opportunity to step back from the often frenetic pace of ministry and rest, reflect, re-center, re-envision, and renew. I do not take this opportunity lightly nor for granted. I am extremely grateful! Sabbatical isn’t vacation although it has an element of vacation in it. The whole goal is to be renewed and refreshed.

I know there are many who question the need and the offering of a sabbatical. I totally understand. There aren’t many professions that offer two months of paid time off every seven years. Typically the teaching arena (college professors), scientists, and sometimes the medical field take sabbaticals, but they are often geared for specific projects like doing research or writing a book.

Pastors are offered sabbaticals in order to sustain long-term placement in a particular community. Most pastors aren’t granted a sabbatical because they don’t stay in a church long enough to receive one. It’s difficult to understand why a pastor might benefit from a two-month break unless you’ve walked a mile in their shoes. I’m sure that’s true for many people and professions. I am paid a full-time salary so I don’t have to work another job so I can focus that full-time effort on ministering, equipping, and serving a faith community. Much like someone who is self-employed, a pastor gets paid for who he/she is more than the hours they put in. In other words, a pastor isn’t full-time, they are all-time. When I am in Walmart, at a school sporting event, at one of our areas many special events or festivals, recreating, going for a walk, or running errands, I am always a pastor and I’m always accessible and on call. It’s nice to have the opportunity to pause that always-on-ness for a short season of rest.

Don’t get me wrong, I love this calling in this particular community! It has been and continues to be my joy!! I’m trying to give a snapshot of what being a pastor is like without soliciting any feelings of sympathy (because I really love it!) rather a level of understanding.

One of my personal commitments has always been transparent honesty. I think it is important, at least for this pastor, to share with people who I am, where I’m at, and how I’m really doing. If I want others to be honest about where they are and how they are really doing, I have to model that in my own life. So that’s what you are getting from me: transparent honesty. You won’t get much pretense or that “false nice” kind of thing. Yuck!

But trust me, I am not sharing this to defend myself nor to elicit sympathy. It is to share my heart with those who want to know both what this sabbatical is for me and how it will actually work.

So here are the basic parameters I’m working off of:

  • I am stepping away from the “all-time” nature of my job at Hayward Wesleyan Church.
  • I will not receive or entertain church-related business calls, texts, messages, or conversations. No email. No Facebook. No Instagram. No digital footprint.
  • I will, however, continue to be a human being who loves talking to people and giving students high-fives, so please don’t shun me if you see me in Hayward during these next two months! I still like people!!
  • I’m going to try to maintain and ask for a “don’t call me, I’ll call you” posture. Unless I call or message you, assume I care deeply about you and would to eventually catch up, but I need this time away. For me, this sabbatical needs to be a refreshing and renewing time for Jeremy, Amanda, Sari and Macie. That is my focus for the next two months. That does not mean that I don’t care about anyone else. If you know me at all, you know that I care deeply. So don’t be mad or put off if I don’t return your phone call or answer your message… it will most likely be delayed by a couple of months.
  • If an emergency arises, the church office and a handful of people will know how to approach and contact me. I trust their discernment and wisdom on if I am to be called back into service prematurely.

The most common question I’ve been asked is:

Where are you going while on sabbatical?

I would love to be able to respond by saying: “Two months in Europe with my wife and kids as we adventure, play, laugh, read, rest, get away, and connect with friends!” But we’re not independently wealthy and Sari and Macie are in school and my wife has a job. So that means Jeremy doesn’t get to abandon his family for a sabbatical rest :). So this means in light of our current circumstances, a sabbatical in Hayward has to be creative amidst normal, routine life.

The other question I get is:

What are doing on sabbatical?

  1. Rest. I am tired. And not just I didn’t get much sleep last night, but a few years of life tired. My experience of pastoring in Hayward is that the need is great and it’s been difficult to maintain personal boundaries around engaging with people. I used to watch a friend struggle in this area not because she didn’t know how to hold boundaries, but that she cared so deeply about people. Additionally, because it is easy for me to get bored if I’m not being challenged with new problems to fix, then I create look for those additional challenges by adding them to my life and ministry instead of taking some things away. So I am looking forward to a season of rest. Here is what I am going to do in order to rest:
    • Not come to work everyday, physically and virtually. I will not come on the church property, any church programs, or engage in digital communication (email, Facebook, texting, etc.). I am going to try and maintain a sense of “away-ness.”
    • I want to take time to develop and habituate a sustainable pattern of life… everything from daily hygiene, consistent sleep, eating routine, exercise regimen, time in the Word, engagement with my girls, and time with my wife.
    • I want to engage in some fun hobbies that I have set aside over the years. I recently acquired a firearm that I really enjoy shooting! I plan to do some hiking around the area. I also plan to spend some intentional time with friends from out-of-town (and some in-town). When the snow comes, I’m excited to start cross country skiing again.
    • I would like to go hang out with a couple of friends during this time… maybe do a day trip together or some extended, overnight kind of time. Fun is the operative world for this!!
    • I plan to take a personal retreat during this time, somewhere around 2-3 days away by myself.
  2. Extended family time. In so many ways that are indistinguishable to me on a regular basis, both my wife and my girls often get the leftovers of their husband and father. We went to the Minnesota Zoo last summer and while we were walking from the parking lot into the zoo, Sari asked if we were going to run into anybody that I knew. I told her that I didn’t think so. She replied with a sigh, “Oh, good.” That told me something! I love running to people that I know, but that isn’t always the best for my family. We are looking forward to some time away from this pressure and I want to think through and ask the three ladies in my life for some wisdom and direction on how to handle this better going forward. I am really looking forward to some fun times with my family. So here is what that might look like:
    • We are taking a family trip over Christmas in December.
    • We plan to attend church as a family at some area churches. We don’t get to go to church together as a family (leave together, travel together, sit in church together, and leave together). Amanda and the girls are looking forward to this.
    • Weekends of fun with whole family.
    • Amanda and I plan to get away for a week for just the two of us.
  3. Personal renewal. Here is how my sabbatical coach, Dan, refers to this area: “gaining insight into yourself and ministry going forward.” What I would personally like to do here and what is more timely is different, and Dan and I have talked about this. I would rather devote personal renewal time by studying Richard Bauckham’s Jesus and the Eyewitnesses, John Sailhamer’s The Meaning of the Pentateuch and the study of the making of the Bible from the perspective of an evangelical theologian and an agnostic scholar of the New Testament. I simply love doing this kind of study and the time I would have on sabbatical could provide that kind of space to do so. However, Dan reminds me that what I might want and what I might need are sometimes different things. The timeliness of theological thomes for me right now might not be solely what I need. Dan has suggested and I have researched some reading that might be more timely for me during sabbatical. Here is what personal renewal during sabbatical will look like:
    • I plan to read some Peter Steinke books for example: Congregational Leadership in Anxious Times: Being Calm and Courageous No Matter What, How Your Church Family Works: Understanding Congregations as Emotional Systems, A Door Set Open: Grounding Change in Mission, and Hope and Healthy Congregations: A Systems Approach. These might sound absolutely abhorrent to those reading :), but these kinds of writings come out of the family of theory that I resonate with and am looking forward to engaging with them. Dan highly recommends these resources!
    • A few other books I’m looking to tackle: The Wounded Healer by Henri Nouwen and Immeasurable by Skye Jethani. I think I might re-read C.S. Lewis’ space trilogy books in light of a recent conversation with a friend.
    • Dan has also encouraged me to spend some time in a seminary library (i.e. Bethel Seminary in the Twin Cities) researching articles related long-term pastoral leadership, burnout, teaching, etc. He wants me to spend more time on the practical side of ministry rather than the theological side :).
    • Dan has recommended that I take considerable time reading the pastoral epistles (1st and 2nd Timothy and Titus) in large chunks (i.e. the whole book in one reading) and journal about it.
    • Even though I will spend considerable amount of time reading in the practical side of ministry, I do want to take some time to do some Bible study that I have wanted to do for a while. So I plan to pick one or two theological books and limit myself to studying those.
    • Weekly exercise regimen. Until it snows I plan to run 3 times a week (Tuesday, Thursday, and Sunday). When it snows and there is enough of a base, I plan to start cross-country skiing 3 times a week as well.
    • In my effort to become more emotionally aware, I plan to continue a daily journaling exercise I began a few months ago.
    • I also really enjoy listening to sermons and audio teachings. I have a treasure trove of sermons I’ve collected over the years. I plan to fill my ears and heart with these teachings when I’m out for a walk.

I plan to give a sabbatical report when I return. I look forward to reconnecting with everyone in a couple of months!!

Daily Time WITH Jesus

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This school year (2017-2018) our High School Youth group is going to spend time with Jesus everyday by reading one chapter a day starting in the New Testament (NT). There are 260 chapters in the NT, so if we start on Thursday, September 14, 2017 with Matthew 1, we will end on Thursday, May 31, 2018 with Revelation 22.

So cool, eh?!

The impetus to do this came from Acts 4:13 (NLT)

“The members of the council were amazed when they saw the boldness of Peter and John, for they could see that they were ordinary men with no special training in the Scriptures.

“They also recognized them as men who had been with Jesus”

We wondered what it would be like to be “accused” of being “ordinary” men and women, teenagers and adults who have no special training in the Scriptures, who had been with Jesus.

So…

The goal is to develop a regular, daily routine of spending time with Jesus.

If any of us miss days of reading a chapter or start the process late, there is no worries. Through spending time with Jesus we will discover that God is extremely loving and gracious with his people. God just desires humans who want to build a relationship with him! Leaders and students will be extremely gracious with one another, but constantly inviting and challenging one another throughout the process.

We spent some time talking about how to have a daily time with Jesus

“All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work”
(2 Timothy 3:16-17 ESV)

  1. Time. Decide on a time of the day to spend with Jesus. Ask yourself: “What is the best time of the day when I am at my best?” Then use that time to spend with Jesus. The amount of time may vary depending on the chapter, but try to set aside at least 15-20 minutes each day.
  2. Place. Find a quiet place where you can focus and not be distracted. Set aside and
    silence your phone. Have your Bible, a pen, journal, and beverage of your choice close at hand.
  3. Prayer. Start with prayer.
  4. Scripture. Read the chapter of the day from the New Testament.
  5. Observation. Write what you notice in the chapter: what stands out to you, what the Spirit might be teaching you, and what doesn’t make any sense to you? Record any questions the chapter raises about God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit, and life in God’s world. As the school year progresses we will learn together how to read and pay attention to things in ancient literature.
  6. Application. Reflect on things in your life that you need to repent of (surrender, let go, confess) and things about God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit, and life in God’s world that you need to believe (have faith and trust in) because of what you have just read and observed in your time with Jesus. Write down some of those things.
  7. Prayer. Any change that happens in your life is Christ doing it because you continually repent and believe. “I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me” (Galatians 2:20 ESV). Repentance is being crucified with Christ and faith is living in light of Jesus’ resurrection who loved us. Write out a prayer of repentance and belief in light of what the Spirit taught you in the chapter.

I made journals for the students and leaders so it could keep them on track and be a place where all the observations and applications and prayers are in one spot (S. O. A. P.). They appreciated it because they thought it would be a helpful guide to staying the course. Plus, it’s something they can bring to Youth group each week as they share what the Holy Spirit taught them the previous week in their small group.

I’m excited to see how the year goes and how God uses this to shape our hearts toward him!

Here are some digital links to see what the journal looks like:

Middle School Youth Kick-off 2017-2018

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This school year I decided to split up the kick-off events for youth ministry at Hayward Wesleyan to focus exclusively on the two different groups: middle school and high school. So the Middle School Youth (msy) Kick-off was on Wednesday, September 6, 2017 from 6:30-8:30p for grades 6-8 only, and the High School Youth (hsy) Kick-off was Sunday, September 10, 2017 at 6:30p for grades 9-12 only.

This was the first year we did not do the annual Back 2 School Bash, which I have done for the last 14 years, but Loretta Sunderland did for several years before that. This was a break in tradition. I made the change because the event wasn’t pulling students back into youth like the original intent was, so I decided to focus on each group and make the “start” or the kick-off event meaningful to msy and hsy.

This is what our msy Kick-off event consisted of:

Interactive Games

DYM (Download Youth Ministry) games have been extremely helpful and fun. We used a few of these to start the evening:

We then played the bottle flip game. Sometime at the end of last school year (16-17), I saw a Facebook post that said teachers survived three things:

  1. Fidget spinners
  2. The dab
  3. Bottle flip

So I did the bottle flip with the students. I shared some donated “water” bottles that the students had to drink and determine the level they were comfortable with. Then they practiced on some tables I had setup. Then we played a couple rounds of this:

  1. first one of 4 students to land an upright bottle
  2. first one of 4 students to land an upright bottle around the back
  3. first one of 4 students to land an upright bottle over a crowd of students in front of the table (high land)

Food

It’s important to have food or something special to eat for a kick-off or any fun event. Personally, I don’t care much about food, but teenagers do! This is so important! So I decided to provide ice cream sundaes for the students with ice cream, chocolate syrup, caramel syrup, and whip cream. The small group leaders jumped in and served up the sundaes for the students. It was awesome! The girls got sundaes first while the guys played games in the Theatre room. Then the guys got the sundaes.

Talking

Nothing is more fun at Youth group than the “talk,” right?! So right before the sundaes were served and while a few leaders were getting things ready, I shared with the students when msy started this year (6p) and ended (8:30p). I also shared the “rules” which can be summed up with one word: RESPECT.

  • respect yourself
  • respect others
  • respect adults
  • respect property

After the sundaes I wanted to introduce the leaders to the students in a fun way, so I asked the leaders to sit in a hot seat and be peppered with questions by the students. It was fun!

Teaching

This was the devotional, teaching part of the night. This year in msy we are going to focus on the book of Exodus and see who God is, the story of redemption and salvation, and what God does with his people. I wanted to start the conversation on the character of God and who he is, so we focused on Exodus 34:4-7.

I asked how the students and other people viewed me and the same about God. Then we read through Exodus 34:4-7 and talked through the character of God that this section addresses (and repeats throughout the Bible).

Here is what the whiteboard looked like:

Here is what the teaching slides looked like:

Active Game

So then we played a Nerf War.

Those who didn’t want to play Nerf went and hung out upfront (I wanted to give an out to those who don’t like Nerf). Most of the students stayed and played a 20-minute game of Nerf. It was awesome!

We cleaned up and closed up shop. It was a great evening!

Personal Statement on Job Change

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History

Being a children’s pastor came out of left field for me. I wasn’t looking, aiming, or intending to be in children’s ministry. It came while I was interning for Hayward Wesleyan Church (HWC) in the summers of 2001 and 2002. During those years, Pastor Mark Wilson was looking to hire a children’s pastor. After the summer of 2002, the idea was posited that I think about the children’s pastor position.

“Nah,” I thought. “My passion lies in youth ministry. If I’m going to work at a church, I’d like to focus on teenagers. I’m not sure about children.”

The leadership of HWC heard my heart and suggested adding middle school students to the job description. That would give Pastor Loretta Sunderland (current youth pastor at the time) relief to focus on high school students and leading worship.

“Hmmm,” I remember thinking, “that might work. I’ll focus on the middle school group and do children’s ministry sort of on the side.”

After much prayer and counsel, I decided to accept that position, and on June 1, 2003, I became the official children and middle school pastor at Hayward Wesleyan Church. Woohoo! I was excited!

I remember Mark asking me about a year later how I was liking my job. My response surprised both him and me!

I said, “Wow. I thought children’s ministry was a side dish so I could enjoy the main dish, middle schoolers, but it is actually the opposite! I didn’t realize how much I would enjoy working with children!”

There weren’t many models for me of what a children’s pastor was, either growing up, in my network of friends, or educationally. Providentially, in order to graduate with my friends, I took extra classes my last semester of college that was focused on education. These classes proved monumental for me in children’s ministry: human growth and development, curriculum and program development, and educational psychology. My primary degree is in youth ministry and theology, so these extra classes helped fill out what was missing in the elementary and preschool years. And before me, there wasn’t a children’s pastor at Hayward Wesleyan so I was able to forge my own way.

Current Status

I’ve been a pastor at Hayward Wesleyan Church for 14 years now. The first 10 years was children and middle school. The last 4 years, the high school group was added to my job description along with a couple of ministry assistants–one for youth and one for children. The last 4 years have been good… amazing, actually… but I began to notice the strain a couple of years ago. I think the idea of a youth and children’s pastor who has oversight over birth through graduation is good, but I didn’t realize the width of that job description is too much to manage for one person. Maybe some could do it, but I began to realize that I couldn’t. That didn’t stop me from trying, though! I tried to make it work. I love my job… it’s an incredible opportunity to ministry to children and teens, but I was heading for the cliff: burnout.

Hence Amanda and I’s conversation with our church leadership in June. I was hitting the wall. I was burnt out. I needed both relief from the current spread of my job and a break from ministry to recover from burnout. I didn’t want to quit, but I was so spent that quitting seemed like a good way out. Substitute teaching looked appealing to me! I really didn’t want to quit because our church is already in a fragile state during the transition of senior leadership. Losing another pastor during this time just wouldn’t be helpful or stabilizing for this faith community. But I was fried (am fried).

Thankfully, though, the church board heard our hearts on the matter. Honestly and truthfully, Amanda and I don’t want to leave Hayward. The breadth of time and the depth of relationships at Hayward Wesleyan and the surrounding community have been both extremely valuable and fruitful. We would only leave Hayward if the Lord was leading us elsewhere, and while things are still in flux and somewhat fragile, at the moment, we feel the Spirit keeping us put at Hayward Wesleyan.

The church board concurred that the scope of my job description was unsustainable. They wondered if taking the responsibility of children’s ministry out of my regular duties would help provide relief and if a two-month sabbatical at the end of the year could provide a break. These were the two things I shared that I needed: relief and a break.

When I think about not being responsible for children’s ministry anymore, I feel sad. I have loved working with children in our community. Oh man, my favorite things are to hang out at the primary and intermediate schools during lunchtime and listen to their stories and all their adventures. I really enjoy simplifying the complexity of the biblical narrative into concepts, pictures, and teachings that children can understand. I also love the many adventures, trips, outings, camps, overnighters, and Nerf wars. These have been my joy over the last 14 years.

But, I do need to scale back the scope of my job at Hayward Wesleyan in order to not be a burned out pastor. In order to continue to thrive in ministry and making disciples who make disciples, stepping away from children’s ministry on the organizational level seems like the best option. I desperately need a relief or I won’t be much good to anyone.

Relief

So that was the first part of the decision: relief of the scope of my job as both a children and youth pastor. Moving forward, I will focus exclusively on youth ministry through Hayward Wesleyan Church and be available to help in a few other areas of pastoral leadership during this transitional time that I have been unable to do because of time constraints and other priorities specifically related to my job.

What this means specifically is that I will not be leading Main Street on Sunday mornings, Followers during the school year, Trunk or Treat, Easter Eggstravaganza, Kids Camp and VBS in the summer, and the many events that are specifically geared toward children and their families. Not being responsible organizationally does not mean however that I will stop being a human being and caring about children! I will always love and cherish the children in our community and will continue to reach out and pour into them in lots of informal and non-organizational ways :).

Break

The second request was a break. So that was the second part of the decision: a break to recharge and re-energize and get some joy back. I will be taking a two-month sabbatical in November and December 2017. I am wiped out. I love being a pastor, but I don’t want to be a 14-year pastor. I want to be a long-tenured and a lifetime one. I simply love discipling people to love Jesus and wanting to make more disciples. Ministry, though, has a way of wearing down a human being because of the emotional and spiritual toll the calling has to endure. It takes a human being who is seeking the Lord deeply and trusting the Spirit completely and surrendering to Jesus fully to be able to minister out of any kind of deep well from which to draw from. If the well is dry because of personal inattention and too much workload, without assigning any kind of blame, then there is not much water to draw from in the well. I need a replenishing. And the kind of replenishing I think I and my family needs can only come from some intentional time away.

So that’s what is happening:

I am going to be focusing on youth ministry at Hayward Wesleyan starting at the beginning of the 2017-2018 school year (relief) and am going to take a two-month sabbatical in November and December (break).

I am definitely excited and hopeful for what the future holds!