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Do You Really Believe the Resurrection Story?

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What was it like for the disciples when they saw Jesus after His resurrection?

How do we describe the feeling, emotion, and huge importance and historical significance of this dead man coming back to life?

In Main Street, I told a story about being at a funeral all sad and in mourning… someone everyone loved and respected had died. What if, while you were sitting in the funeral service, the casket top flips open on its own and the dead person pops up alive?!

How would everyone respond?

They would FREAK OUT!

Some would scream. Others would faint. Everyone’s adrenaline would coarse a little stronger than normal. If something like this really happened it would be the leading news story on NBC News! Hopefully someone would have caught it on video, but if it wasn’t they would interview all the witnesses as well as the dead–now alive–person! If it wasn’t caught on video, the rest of the world would have to ask themselves these questions:

  • Do I believe this really happened?
  • Do I believe the eyewitnesses?
  • Do I believe this wasn’t some magical stunt or the dead person really wasn’t dead, but just faking it for attention?
  • Do I really believe this?

These are the same questions we have to ask and answer some 2,000 years later:

  • Do I really believe Jesus came back to life?
  • Do I believe this resurrection account?
  • Do I trust the eyewitness testimony?
  • Or is it some fanciful story that was pre-arranged and manipulated to further this Jesus’ cause?
  • Do I really believe this?

We have eyewitness testimony in Matthew, Mark, Luke and John, who all have varying perspectives on what happened in the life of Jesus as well as his death and resurrection. As time comes and goes, why does this one story so capture us that we’re telling it 2,000 years later? Because nothing like it has ever happened before! And we want to share it with the whole world (based on the eyewitness testimony) because it has to do with humanity’s salvation!

Do you believe it?

6 Things I’ve Learned About Retaining Volunteers

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1] One-year commitments.

McIntosh and Arn (2013), in their book, What Every Pastor Should Know, say that “each ministry position, from the lowest level of influence to the highest, should be a one-year term [so the volunteer] can try a new activity and have the freedom to leave without guilt at the end of the year…” (p. 136). I wholeheartedly agree. All of the volunteers who work in the hwcYouth arena are contracted to one-year commitments. I ask them that every year. I tell them that they are signing on and committing to being involved for one ministry year. If it does not work out, then they are welcome to not recommit the following year. People really appreciate the one-year commitment because they don’t feel trapped in a ministry till they die. Even my most faithful volunteers that have served with me for years, I ask them every July or August if they would like to return. I always want to give people an easy out if they need to make a change—guilt-free. I think we get more committed and faithful volunteers because of this.

2] Clear, defined expectations.

Simpson (2005) shares in Management Essentials for Christian Ministries: “I have generally found that volunteers are more likely to volunteer and do the job well with a sense of satisfaction when they have been given a job description that is honest about the tasks they are being asked to do” (p. 178). A few years back I came across a manual for small group leaders at stuffyoucanuse.org and it gave me an idea for getting all of our volunteers on the same page—literally. So that’s what I did. I used their template and wrote clear and defined expectations of hwcYouth volunteers. The manual has morphed over the years and has almost nothing from the template anymore, but stuffyoucanuse.org really helped get the ball rolling on this one for us! The volunteers that work with me have a very clear understanding of what I’m asking them to do and what they are committing to do. This makes accomplishing these things actually happen!

3] Listen and be open to their feedback.

Volunteers are smart. They see things you as the ministry leader don’t see. Volunteers also hear things that you don’t hear. They sense things you don’t sense. It’s extremely wise to illicit their opinions and feedback about the area that they are serving. Asking volunteers for their honest feedback means that you as the ministry leader need to have thick skin, a Christ-like humility, a rightly ordered identity in Christ, and a relentless passion for seeing things improve in reaching kids for Christ rather than remaining in the status quo or in decline. I highly recommend asking your volunteers for feedback and critique.

4] Appreciate them.

I used to think that if someone volunteers with me and they are doing it for the right reasons, then they don’t need my thanks or appreciation. After all, it’s God they are serving and pleasing Him, right? Why do I need to appreciate them? Well, that’s not how we humans are wired, and we need all need encouragement to make it from week to week (especially middle school small group leaders). I think this realization turned for me when I had children. Even though I felt fairly confident (that didn’t take long to fade!) in my parenting early on, I found myself craving encouragement from other parents (who were further on down the road than me). I realized that even though most of my volunteers are definitely serving for the right reasons, they still need encouragement and appreciation to fuel that service (so they know they are doing a good job). I encourage my volunteers weekly and we do a huge catered dinner with them mid-year as a small token of appreciation.

5] Communicate with them.

Your volunteers need to hear from you… often. Probably on a regular, consistent basis. You need to share details, evaluate the previous week’s program or event, talk about what is coming up, etc. This can be done through a variety of means (letter, email, blog post, etc.), but it needs to be done. Volunteers like to feel like they know what is going on. They want to know how they can help. They want their service to matter. They also want to know how they are doing from week to week. I recently had an older Mom who is a middle school girls small group leader ask me if I still wanted her to lead her girls or if I wanted a younger person to do it. Of course not! The relationship she has with her group of girls and the time she has invested in them is invaluable and irreplaceable. Just having a younger, “hip” person leading will not give the students what they really need. They really need you. She was encouraged by that. I realized that I need to individually and corporately encourage our leaders more when I communicate with them weekly.

6] Be flexible.

You have to be flexible. You just have to be. If you are a full-time or part-time staff leader then you get paid to be present and lead week to week. Your volunteers actually volunteer their time and don’t get paid for their service. Be flexible with them. If they can’t make it because they are sick or out-of-town for a vacation, let them be gone with your enthusiastic blessing. If it’s a chronic kind of absence then it’s worth a conversation about whether their commitment has changed. The goal is to not make your volunteers feel guilty if they are gone for a legitimate reason (which, if you have set clear expectations, one-year commitments, listen to their feedback, encourage, and communicate with them, any reason they would be gone will be legitimate). Let them be gone with your enthusiastic blessing, not with your resigned: “I don’t know if we’ll make it without you, but okay, if you force us to, I guess we will.”

Usually my response is: “No worries. Have fun! I’ll see you next week.” (if they are on vacation or something cool has happened with their kids). Or it’s: “Oh, I’m so sorry. I’ll be praying for you. We’ll miss you, but no worries. Get better.” (if they are sick or have something tragic happen last minute).

God’s Son Jesus’ Birthday // Coloring Sheet

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My daughter Sari drew this the other day and I asked her if I could scan it in and share it with others.

Gods-Son-Jesuss-Birthday

She happily agreed!

Luke 9:23-24 // Bible Verses

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In Main Street @ Hayward Wesleyan we focus on a Bible verse or a set of verses each month. Instead of trying to have students memorize a verse every week, we spend a whole month focused on one set of verses.

For November 2014, we chose Luke 9:23-24 in the NIV:

“If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me.

“For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will save it.”

November 2014

Luke 5:31-32 and Luke 6:31 // Bible Verses

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In Main Street @ Hayward Wesleyan we focus on a Bible verse or a set of verses each month. Instead of trying to have students memorize a verse every week, we spend a whole month focused on one set of verses.

For October 2014, we chose Luke 5:31-32 in the NIV:

“Jesus answered them,
‘It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.'”

and Luke 6:31 in the NIV:

“Do to others as you would have them do to you.”

October 2014

1 Corinthians 10:13 // Bible Verse

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In Main Street @ Hayward Wesleyan we focus on a Bible verse or a set of verses each month. Instead of trying to have students memorize a verse every week, we spend a whole month focused on one set of verses.

For September 2014, we chose 1 Corinthians 10:13 in the NIV:

“No temptation has seized you except what is common to man.
And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.
But when you are tempted, he will provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.”

September 2014 - 1 Cor 10-13

How to Handle a Make-Out Session at a Kidmin Event

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So you’ve got an amazing children’s ministry outreach event going and something inappropriate is going on…

What do you do?

Well, confront it.

Or you can watch the video for the whole story and some tips…

source YouTube

Responsible Caregivers

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Dangerous products should be kept out of reach of children… check.

Parents have known this for thousands of years. So why do we have a news story like this one? Because we are reminded that human nature likes to blame others for bad things happening rather than ourselves.

Sure, at the very least, this news story about laundry detergent and dishwashing liquid “tabs” should remind us that just because dangerous chemicals are “contained” in a plastic tab does not mean that they are safe to put in the reach of children. What becomes frustrating as a cultural observer is what previous generations would have dubbed “common sense” is no longer so common. The example NBC News used to illustrate this problem was a mother of a young child whose grandmother mistook the “tab” for a teething ring and placed it in the child’s mouth. Because the “tabs” are designed to be water soluble, obviously it didn’t take long for the dangerous substance within the “tab” to find its way out of the “tab”.

Why did the grandmother think that this “tab” was a teether?

I suppose because these products are fairly new she could have mistaken the “tab” for a baby teether. But why? Why was the “tab” in a location where the grandmother would have made such a mistake? Wouldn’t all the “tabs” (for either laundry or dishwashing) be in a container under the sink in cabinet with a childproof lock or up on a shelf out of the reach of the child near the washer and dryer? If so, then why did the grandmother think to take a “tab” out of  a container with a bunch of other “tabs” that perhaps was labeled as laundry detergent or dishwashing tabs?

If this was a case where the childproof lock didn’t work or an errant “tab” fell out and the caregivers were unaware and then a child found that “tab”, then sure, I can see how a child would mistakenly see a colorful, mouthable object and eat it. These accidental cases happen all the time, and not just with “tabs.” But the example NBC News put forth to talk about this issue is fraught with irresponsibility. It is very frustrating that blame is placed on the product itself when the caregivers are so obviously at fault.

There were 17,230 calls to poison control as reported by the American Academy of Pediatrics. NBC News did not reveal over what period of time that number was reached. I don’t know how long these “tabs” have been around, but our family has used them for at least a couple of years. In the absence of the responsible news organization telling us the time frame for this “high” number, we could assume, at the very least, that those calls have came in since these “tabs” have existed (2+ years). For the audiences’ comparison, how many cases of other ingestible chemicals occurred in that same time frame? It would have been responsible for NBC News to report timeframes and comparisons instead of reporting these numbers in isolation.

This news story has so many problems with it that it was frustrating to watch. It doesn’t accurately report much of anything other than presenting a child who ingested a “tab” and is okay as well as telling viewers that bad things happen when something like this is consumed by a child.

The newer innovation of packaging dishwashing liquid and laundry detergent is not inherently good or bad. I’m sure that it’s a responsible thing for companies to put warning labels on the product’s packaging and launching information campaigns to help re-educate the public on a new product and its potential misuse or accidental acquirement by those it is not intended for. I am also not saying that of those 17,230 children there are not accidental situations that happen. As a father and an advocate of children, I am so appreciative of being able to reach Poison Control in the event of accidental ingestion of a chemical.

While Poison Control is helpful in accidental cases, if I were to leave “tabs” lying around where my grandmother would mistake them for a baby teether, then I or my grandmother would be to blame for such oversight, not the makers of convenient “tabs.”

What I am advocating for in this post, and the reason why this is has struck a chord in me, is addressing the responsibility problem.

  • Are we blaming the manufacturers for making the product colorful and bright?
  • Do we expect a company representative to come to each of their consumer’s home to show how to use and safeguard such products?
  • Are we addressing, as in this illustrated example, who is really to blame for what happened?
  • Should this story have been about the attractiveness of “tabs” to children or childproofing your home and your grandmother?

My “favorite” part of this story was the end where the reporter asked the Mom if she uses those “tabs” anymore. The Mom replied, “I don’t. It’s just not worth the risk to me anymore.” To which the reporter concluded, that “for this Mom the convenience came at too high a price.”

The real question should have been: “Does the grandmother know better now?”

source NBC News

Update: I mistakenly shared that NBC News did not give a timeframe for the study by the American Association of Pediatrics. They did. It was two years. A commenter pointed that out and I have corrected that in the post.

Malcolm Gladwell’s Take on the Story of David and Goliath

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Malcolm Gladwell addresses the biblical story of David and Goliath found in 1 Samuel 17.

In large part, biblical interpretation is an imaginative enterprise. The more one can understand and gather information about how the original hearers/readers would have understood both the telling of the event as well the author’s point is helpful for modern interpreters. Gladwell offers some great historical as well as possible medical insights. He invites the reader to engage in the an understanding of the story of David and Goliath that is unlike the traditional version.

I both appreciate and welcome Gladwell’s thoughts as I seek to understand what the author of Samuel and Yahweh are trying to communicate with their readers.

“Bulleys” written by my 7-year-old

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My daughter Sari, who is 7 years old, wrote the following during her inside recess time at school after her class had talked about bullying. I appreciated the emotion in it!

Bulles are horabill.

Bull are mean.

If I see one I will skreem!

And then I will comdonw and tack a depbreth but seeing some one git Bulled maks me fell bad.

And also fell mad!

I cant STAND SOME ONE GIT Bulled!

It make me criy!

I will not let some one git Bulled by a Bulley.

It is my promis to not let Some one git Bulled!

Offending Cultures

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I’m currently sitting in a coffee shop in Hayward next to a group of people talking a lot and sharing lots of stories. After the group had been sitting for a bit, another member arrived.

Someone in the group asked this late arrival if she was running on “Spanish time”

I might not have thought anything of the comment if it were not for a Hispanic friend of mine that was sitting right behind them. I don’t know if that comment was prejudicial or not, but it didn’t sound very honoring, rather derogatory to the Spanish people. I don’t think my friend heard the comment. And even if he had, I doubt he would have been offended. Sadly, I imagine that is not the worst thing my friend has heard directed toward his culture.

It probably would have been much worse (especially in our Hayward area culture) if the comment has been: “Are you running on Indian time?” Perhaps we are just not aware of what our words really mean and how someone from the aforementioned culture were to hear the comment.

Regardless whether or not someone would be offended… regardless whether or not a person from that particular culture is present… I don’t think we are aware of the things we say as often as we should be.

I wonder how many times I have unknowingly shared an inappropriate comment without thinking?

“Calling People Out”

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A friend of mine was sharing a story about a time (some 20 years ago) when he was at Lake Hayward Beach area (in Hayward, WI) and a mother was asking her older daughter to get out of the lake because they were heading home. The daughter back-talked her mother (in public) and added a few choice words.

My friend shared how he spoke up and told the young girl that she was speaking inappropriately to her mother and that she should listen to her. He seemed to be speaking from one frazzled single-parent to another.

However, my friend realized that something had changed in the Hayward community (and in the larger culture) in the 20 years prior:

He experienced the look on everyone’s faces at the beach that what he had done was more shocking and inappropriate than the young girl in responding to her mother!

It seemed as though the community of adults were no longer permitted or welcomed to help shape the inner-workings of our community.

I experience this phenomenon every time (which I do rarely and carefully) I confront a particular behavior online. To use a common phrase, whenever I “call a student out,” they are more frustrated with my act of drawing attention to the behavior than the behavior itself. More and more students and parents do not want anyone correcting them. It’s almost as if our culture is okay with making mistakes and continuing to repeat them over and over again.

Now I work with young people. One of the benefits with working with this age group is that they are used to being corrected from time-to-time. Kids are used to adults helping them understand what is appropriate and how to respond. Something happens, though, on the way to teenage-hood…no one can tell you what to do anymore. Now this isn’t anything new. What is new, and becoming more and more accepted, is that no one (teacher, coach, pastor, etc) is allowed or permitted to “call a student or a parent” out on any negative or questionable behavior. It’s almost as if our cultural individualism has reached it’s logical conclusion: that no one has the right to speak into my life or “call me out” unless I want them to.

Last month, my family and I were at our local county fair. My two girls were playing in their favorite spot at the county fair: the corn box. The kids love playing in the corn box. There were some older girls (probably 4th graders) who were throwing corn and my wife asked them to stop. You should have seen the “go to hell” look these girls gave my wife! At that request the girls left, but not without one of the girls looking squarely at Amanda with an icy stare and saying: “You’re not my mom… you can’t tell me what to do.” Amanda and I chuckled because that is exactly what happened! They stopped!!

What does this mean for our culture moving forward? What does it mean to both personally and as a leader with a voice help shape our community? Would anyone care? Whether personally or corporately, how do we influence a community (with this particular cultural right) for the sake of the Gospel. Do we come underneath and encourage or do we come over-top and challenge? What is a language our culture understands? Truth statements? Absolutes? Right and wrong? Or perhaps stories? I wonder if the cultural witness for the Gospel looks like people both living out their lives and telling stories about their lives (perhaps through reflection?).

When I told Amanda about my friend’s story, she had a thought: Instead of chiding the young girl at the Hayward beach and thus telling the parent how to parent, that he could have said something like, “Young lady, those words are offensive to me and shouldn’t be uttered in public.” Amanda’s point had to do with making it personal (that was offensive to me) instead of calling the parent out on her ineffective parenting.

Whatever the case, if one is a Christian, we are called out to live the Gospel in our everyday lives. I wonder what that looks like in a culture that increasingly values individuality over a healthy community and decreasingly values help from other significant adults/elders in our community (even those who have great relationships with students).