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How To Use Emoticons [infographic]

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In person, non-verbal cues and facial expressions communicate the necessary emotion to the conversant parties.

In other words, for the most part, people don’t get offended when we say something in person because we can see how the other is interacting.

However, in email, cell phone text, Facebook status updates, or a tweet… emotion is best communicated via an emoticon. I used to think these were just for middle school girls to use to “smile” at their BFF (Best Friend Forever). However, I have begun to use the oldest emoticon, the smiley face 🙂 mainly because if I’m being sarcastic, facetious, or funny, I need to communicate that I’m being that emotion. I can’t count on my emotion coming through the words I type. I can’t tell you how that emoticon has saved me in communication!

Here is an infographic that gives some examples of which emoticons to use when:

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The Diet of a Youth Pastor

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This is really gross when viewed like this… but it’s probably true!

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Picture taken from a Group Magazine

The Incarnation [spoken word]

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This kind of video brings on Christmas nostalgia, but then I realize… it doesn’t have to be Christmas to be thankful for the Incarnation… Jesus coming to earth… God in human form breaking into our world as one of us… mystery upon mystery… fully God, and yet, fully human. Amazing.

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10 Creatively Interesting Discipline Ideas

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Once again, the EpicParent.tv does not disappoint!

Here is a list of 10 creatively interesting discipline ideas:

  1. JAIL TIME
  2. NIGHT TIME CHORES
  3. MISS A GAME
  4. OLD SCHOOL SOAP TRICK
  5. PAY THE PIPER
  6. GIVE GRACE
  7. YOU HAVE TO CRY
  8. COLLABORATIVE WINDOW CLEANING
  9. LET THEM DECIDE
  10. HEAD GEAR

Head on over to the post for some further explanation of each “creative” discipline idea:

10 Creative (FUNNY) Discipline Ideas

Small Town Churches… Full of Opportunity!

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Our lead pastor at Hayward Wesleyan Church, Mark Wilson, is a champion of small town church ministry. His calling is to encourage and resource small town pastors. Mark travels and speaks often to rural pastors and has a knack for understanding their situation (because he is in a small town) and seeks to “revitalize their church.”

Back in December, Mark shared an insightful post about Jesus being called to do small town ministry called: Jesus Was a Small Town Preacher.

Mark’s blog can be found @ Revitalize Your Church

Teachable Moments in Everyday Life

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I’m sure you know that successful parenting has more to do with the little things you teach over and over and over again… all in the hopes that these teachable moments add up to a wise, kind, content and caring “future” adult who is productive, generous, and responsible.

Dr. Michelle Borba shares 38 Parenting Practices that Build Moral Intelligence. It’s a great list to print off, pin to the fridge, and look at often to remind us what we need to “teach” and talk about on a regular basis with our children. Dr. Borba shares:

Even in our increasingly toxic culture, parents can still have the inside track in their children’s development because parents are their children’s first and most important moral teachers. That premise only applies though if parents choose to use their moral influence.

Remember, children do not acquire strong character in one-time lectures, but in daily teachable moments. So take advantage of everyday moments to stretch your child’s character and there are dozens!

Here are a couple “teachable moments” concepts in her list of 38:

  • Experiencing different perspectives help children able to empathize with others whose needs and views.
  • Be sure your behaviors your kids watch are ones that you want them to copy.
  • Catch your child acting morally by describing what she did right and why you appreciate it.
  • Treat children respectfully so that they feel respected and are therefore more likely to treat others respectfully.
  • The best way to teach kids any virtue is not through our lectures but through our example.
  • Encourage your child when he encounters unfair treatment to stand up for himself and the rights of others.

via Michelle Borba

A Young Family Sitting Together in a Church Service [guest post]

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This is a guest post from a friend of mine @ Hayward Wesleyan Church. She writes:

A young family sitting together in a church service, the youngest with his head resting against his father’s shoulder. The oldest is jotting down notes as the pastor preaches. When the singing time begins the whole family rises together to join in song to worship the One who created them, loves them and unifies them.

A quaint picture isn’t it?

Quaint, but in my opinion, a necessary quaintness.

This past Sunday was a unique experience at Hayward Wesleyan Church. Instead of separating parents and their children at church, the families were sitting together in the sanctuary worshipping together.

Together, what?

Yes, for some of you this may have been awkward, even childish and simplistic. However, the way I look at it, spiritual togetherness is a very rare experience for families these days. It, along with the joys of game playing, laughing and talking around the table have become a quaint old fashioned way of living life in this fast paced American culture.

The priority of teaching scripture and God’s truth to our own children seems to have taken a back seat to the ever increasing desire to see our children excelling in academics, sports or music. Parents will gladly help their children through their homework or push them to go to their music lessons and basketball games, but when it comes to reading the Bible or sending their children to a Sunday School class, we as parents get a failing grade.

Oh, but maybe that isn’t important anymore, maybe it is more important that our children grow up to have a high class job earning more money than we do. And just maybe our child will be the next great football star or be an accomplished pianist and we think we must keep them focused on that. Yes, those things are important, but not so important as instilling truths of the Bible in our young children’s hearts.

  • When was the last time we have interpreted Scripture for our children?
  • When did we read him or her something from the Bible and explain to them what it means?
  • Did we ever think that we could teach our children something by modeling a priority of regular church attendance or by having them sit through a church service with us, seeing us in worship to our great God?
  • Is there a desire in us to learn and be taught by these men and women of God who are our pastors?

If we could take advantage of the classes they teach how much we could learn! There are also so many other ways we could be learning about the Lord. Not all our Christian growth has to happen in the church! But the question we should ask ourselves is:

Are we putting ourselves in a position where we are growing in our faith and are we modeling to our children that desiring God is important?

So take an inventory, remembering that when everything has been said and all has been done, when we breathe our final breath and stand in front of our awesome God in his heavenly palace – what will matter most? Only what we have done for Christ will last, that is all that will matter.

Shout Out to Your Local Public Library

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Kids and families rely and appreciate a good, local public library. It’s still a safe and respected place for children, teenagers, and adults to go read, study, do research, check email, etc.

Thanks Sherman and Ruth Weiss Community Library in Hayward, WI!

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How Long Should “Things” Be in Time-Out? Discipline Strategies

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Do you ground your children?

Do you put things in time-out for a time as a disciplinary measure?

Do you find yourself saying things like: “That toy is out for 3 days, or 3 weeks!”

Then the quote below might offer some helpful advice for ya:

Whatever the discipline is (no TV, no bike, etc.); I never say how long it will be for. I just tell her when I feel she deserves it, the discipline will be over. So, I don’t say ‘no bike’ for a month, and after a week feel bad and give it back. I just say, ‘No bike. You’ll get it back when I think you deserve it.’ This works great for me and I also have no guilt to deal with when I calm down.

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John 3:16 [video]

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A simple, super-short Bible verse video on John 3:16.

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What If the Parents Aren’t Christians? | CM White Paper Reflections #10

This is the tenth and final post in a series of reflections on a Children’s Ministry White Paper written by Doug Paul from Eikon Community (you can view the original document here).

The strength of having a space like Missional Communities is they allow people to enter more freely into each other’s lives without the pretext of “church” and all that can sometimes come with it. For kids who have parents that aren’t Christians, this is particularly important. It allows a family to invite that child into their rhythms (assuming the family isn’t hostile to their kid hanging out with them, which usually they aren’t).

Missional Communities work because they can integrate many types of people and there is the opportunity for kids to have spiritual parents who aren’t their own. This is particularly helpful for MCs with children because they are often neighborhood based and parents don’t have to worry about dropping their kids off at a place (church) they don’t attend (with people they don’t know).

For children and teenagers who want to be a part of the family of God, but whose parents do not, the community of faith gets to sort of adopt them. In short, we are called to nurture faith as spiritual parents.

Encouraging these students to be a part of regular children and youth programming at church is a start. But these students need to SEE faith lived out in the context of average, everyday human interaction. With parental permission, inviting them in to a small group or a “missional community” would sort of substitute for what they lack in their natural home environment.

This is tricky if your church is outreached focused like Hayward Wesleyan. We get a lot of students who want to follow Jesus, but then go home to a home that doesn’t have affection for Christ. Trying to get all these hungry students connected with mentors and surrogate families is daunting and overwhelming. Now, not everyone is hungry for the things of Christ, but we do have more students seeking than we do adults willing to stand and fill in the gap for these students.

Interesting problem to have, eh?